Dating seperated and divorced
Dating during divorce can have legal consequences both for the divorcing spouse and their new partner.
Dating while separated can hold up and complicate the divorce proceedings, can effect custody and visitation decisions, and rarely but possibly, depending on the state, may be grounds for a lawsuit.
The other spouse, if they are not dating, may develop the idea that the dating spouse was committing adultery even if that idea hadn't surfaced before.
Or, the other spouse may simply suffer anger and hurt as a result of the limited amount of time it apparently took the dating spouse to recover and move on.
You CAN see people, of course, but use your best judgment. Again, once you've signed a separation agreement, it's less risky–but it's still adultery (and therefore still a misdemeanor in Virginia) until you've got that Final Decree of Divorce with the judge's signature on it. I would say, however, that if you would be angry with your husband for having his new girlfriend over while the children are there, then it would probably be a good idea if you didn't do it either.
Before you've signed an agreement, it's a very bad idea. Until there is an order preventing you from doing something (like having unrelated overnight guests when the children are present), legally speaking you are allowed to do it. It's probably also not a bad idea to consider your children and where they are in the whole process.
In most divorces, there is a period after the marriage is over in the minds of the parties, but before the marriage is over in the eyes of the law.
That is especially true when your old relationship was a marriage.If your husband can prove that you've committed adultery (and, remember, it's even adultery if you've already separated), you could be prevented from asking for spousal support. Would it upset them to have a new person around so quickly?